
I can only speak for myself but this is how I find it.
It's really hard work and often a long day but always really good fun and enormously rewarding! I've been lucky that all of my weddings have been happy events between two willing adults (this is not always the case I am assured by some of my colleagues).
As the photographer on a wedding day, you are invited to share some of the most precious moments of a person's life and you are sharing it with their closest family and friends. I often see brides and bridesmaids in their underwear when they are getting ready or having boudoir shots done for their husbands-to-be. I nearly always see people crying (brides and grooms) and I nearly always see them a bit drunk. Even though I am working, it is still a position of privilege and I think that makes my job pretty special!
On the flip side to that, having spent quite an intense period of time with a couple, their family and friends, I then go off to edit their images. When I do minor re-touching such as whitening teeth, I zoom in so that the mouth is as big as my screen. I probably have a better knowledge of some people's dental work than their best friends do. So after spending their wedding day with them and then a week of close ups of skin and dental care on screen, you feel like you have gotten to know your clients pretty intimately and they do feel like friends.
The sad part is when you only see them a few more times after that, meet for a coffee to chat about the photos they want for an album, meet up to hand over the DVD and maybe meet again for their 1st Anniversary portraits or baby bump photos. So there is also a kind of mourning period where you feel like you all get on with your lives as they were before the wedding...before you ever met...and you never see those 'friends' again.
It's probably not the same for the couple, they haven't spent a day with my family and friends and looked at close ups of my pores and molars for a week after. Part of the way I photograph a wedding and the way I make it completely unique for each couple is that I allow myself to become fully absorbed in the emotion of their day. That way I get the most realistic shots of people and capture their personality and capture the essence of their day - warts an' all.
So that really sums it up for me as a wedding photographer, lots of happiness tinged with a little sadness but overall I love my job and consider myself lucky!